Toxic relationships and how to overcome them.

 "Toxic relationships are like a good pasta that has been overcooked"- Asa Don Brown

Relationships becoming toxic among campus students has become a worrying trend and a serious issue.

Over the years we have witnessed some students even losing life as a result of toxic relationships.

University students get into relationships expecting soo much commitment and since they have more free time in school it becomes more even serious with the commitment instead of driving the same energy into making money.

Relationships among students entails alot of fake promises, lies and deceits and these are the things that turn the relationship toxic as time progresses by. For example its very difficult for a guy student in university to maintain being in a relationship with a lady moreso if your are depending on your parents as your providers for your maintenance money. It has become very hard for guys to compete with "wababaz" who have always been thirsting for young university girls spoiling them with anything they want so as to get them.

A scenario for instance how would you feel if you were dating and your girlfriend goes out with a rich old man simply because she wants more and you cant provide? This is what is turning many relationships toxic with anger issues emanating from bad decisions leading to consequences that have gotten as far as death.

To add onto this, there was once this drama in Moi University in 2019 where we saw a guy axe his girlfriend to death due to claims that the girlfriend had ignored him despite sending money to her and buying her the phone that she used to block him and ghost him. Due to this a young girl aged 26, on her 6th year died imagine the shock and trauma to her parents due to toxic relationships.

There is a popular saying that always choose yourself over toxicity, choose your peace. According to a research done to curb the toxicity among students in relationships in universities and the following are my best points among them: 1. Having a partner is not a requirement

2. Seek respect not attention.

3. Always value your studies.

4. Be sure of yourself before getting into a relationship.

5. Heartbreaks never make someone lesser

I strongly believe some words said by Kanye West a great rapper that, "love slowers the grind and while your young dont lose focus and chase the bag."

To those dating not that its forbidden but its important to make sure the relationship is healthy.